December 21, 2007 at 8:27 am Leave a comment

I am reading a wonderful wonderful book at the moment. Its called ‘Motherstyles’ by Janet Penley. The book uses the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) to give insight into what your own Mothering Style is, and how to use this knowledge to play to your strengths and manage the areas you might struggle with.

 The author also goes into what your children’s personality types might mean for you as a mother, the personality type of the father, and the resulting family structure. Its fascinating reading, I can’t recommend it enough.

One of the things that this book helped me to clarify was the struggle between my tendency to make decisions based on feelings and emotions, rather than facts and logic; while at the same time liking my life to be extremely organised and structured. While this isn’t a suprise (I used to work with a bunch of psychs so I have been assessed from here to Timbuktoo) the book had helpful ideas on how to manage these challenges.

You can take a very simplified version of the assessment at

 Here’s what it says about me:

esfj  —The “Happy Together” Mother

“I like it when my children are happy on their own, but i love it when the whole family is happy together.”

  • The ESFJ mother has a highly developed sense of family and what it takes to be happy in life. Capable and personally invested, she strives to create a happy family where togetherness and harmony flourish. Whether it’s taking her children to the park or putting on a holiday feast, her efforts are directed toward having everyone be “happy together.”
  • To many, the ESFJ personifies motherhood. She promotes traditional values, tends to the practical and domestic, provides the family with order and structure, and is directly involved with her children’s day-to-day living. The ESFJ mother is a “doer,” and she’s never happier than when she’s “doing” for her family.
  • Believing the home is central to family life, the ESFJ mother excels at creating an atmosphere that is attractive and offers security.
    Energetic and people-oriented, she is drawn to community and the social scene. She helps her children discover the joys of people and groups.

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