Attachment Parenting and Supernanny

December 26, 2007 at 7:34 am Leave a comment

For some reason I found myself browsing the website of Jo Frost (aka Supernanny) www.jofrost.com. I’m not a fan of the show particularly, but some of her ideas are interesting and I try (hah!) to keep an open mind.

 However, on the forums I saw a bizarre post on attachment parenting suggesting that AP parents set no boundaries for kids and never use nappies!

So, in spite of my best intentions not to waste time on forums I posted this in response:

I have done heaps of reading on Attachment Parenting, I go to La Leche League, and consider myself an “attachment parent”, so I’m pretty passionate about it.

Being an attachment parent is about an attitude, and a belief – rather than a set of ‘have tos’. Attachment parenting is wanting to develope a very strong bond with your baby, to give your baby as many of the proven benefits of having a strong primary attachment.

The core AP practices according to William Sears who developed the AP approach are ‘birth bonding, babywearing , responding to your baby’s cries, breastfeeding, sharing sleep (which can be sleeping in the same room) and balance’

AP doesn’t have to mean breastfeeding for-ever, but it does mean weaning gradually with love rather than cold turkey.

It certainly doesn’t mean no boundaries or discipline, but does mean no smacking or harsh punishments.

It doesn’t mean no routine, but it does mean feeding on baby’s cues especially in the early days, and working gently towards a routine that suits everyone.

AP doesn’t always mean no bottles, although it is strongly pro-breastfeeding. But you would give the bottle lovingly, holding your baby gently and close. You can ‘fail’ at breastfeeding and still get an ‘A+’ in Attachment Parenting.

AP definately doesn’t mean no-nappys (or cloth nappies). But no-nappy people find it makes them feel they know their babys better – not something I have done though!

AP doesn’t even have to mean no strollers. Strollers can be really handy. But AP parents also want to spend time with baby close, especially if they are upset, so AP parents are likely to use a sling or baby carrier especially for the first six months or so until they can crawl!

AP does stress the importance of a happy baby and wider family, so BALANCE is the most important Attachment Parenting principle.

End of diatribe! I’m sure Jo Frost would be horrified!!!

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